how much can we love

a asked me the other night if its possible to be in love with somebody now and still be in love with a past. it wasn't really an easy question to answer so i decided to leave it hanging until i could sort out a proper answer. regardless of how much i argued, the only answer (and this is my personal opinion) i have is "yes, its possible." i believe our heart is big enough to be capable of loving somebody else with the same intensity accorded to a current beau. if the question is whether its wrong to feel that way - then the answer is "it depends." nobody can forget a first love, or the real kind you thought would last forever. memory is a cruel thing and will constantly remind you of both the sweet and painful memories. this is why i was saying that if erasing one's memory (ala eternal sunshine of the spotless mind) is possible, then everyone would probably be better off - living in a borrowed utopia. loving your past is not wrong if you leave it at that - the past. it becomes wrong only if it holds you from moving on with your life, or holding yourself from loving somebody else. the real truth is that there are just some love that hits us, leaves its mark and stays with us - forever.